Different thought~

This world is definitely full of different kind of people..

Yep! I meant it!

Sometimes i am very tired of dealing with this kind of people..
Yet, socialising is part of me!
So eventually i have to face every kind of person that appeared in front of me..
But i just do not understand how certain people will have their own way of 'special' thinking~

I mean was it that i am weird for having my own way of thinking or they have their own way of thinking weirder?
But whatever it is i think that both parties can stay with their own thinking without having to invade others..
cause everyone is different entity and thus will have different style of thought..

So what is the occasion if someone bring this matters over to another matters?
Meaning if topic no 1 they could not reach a concensus, then this fat lan zha method will brought forward to another topic?
Personal view i think this shall not be happening..
But the fact is, it is!

I find it ridiculous for people to judge another person with their thinking..
Those who is not same with them, banned!
and only thinks that what they think is right..
and refuse to listen to others too..
this kind of friend how to safe leh? aiks~

I mean i'm not blaming others for having different thought with me..
but shouldn't we just let it go?
and treat one another like before?
and respect each other's thought?

I just hope things can run smoothly that's all~
My only hope in this matter~

ps. still friends~ =)

This is rational post..
Irrational post shall be retained.. @@

Humorous vs Caring

The debate of the week goes to:

which kind of guy is more attractive?

is it those who is good in speaking aka humorous?
OR
is it those who is good in action aka caring?

i just randomly thought of this question out of nowhere..
perhaps that is the main reason why i am still single..
no offence to myself and to others..
i just feel so..

i hope to have this kind of discussion with my friends because i would like to know how they perceive this question.

traditionally girls like to hear those sweet sweet comments which means the first type of guy will have the advantage.
i do not know whether the girls are aware that first type of guys always end up giving short term promise..
(no sweeping statement!)
they like to use their sweet mouth to capture the girl's heart and then make full use of the power of control they gained from the girls..
although sometimes we would call it a trap but still girls normally fall for this kind of trap.
it is because of their sweet mouth that girls is usually attracted towards this kind of guy..
it's girl nature, we cant do anything~

as for the other type of guy?
chamness!
girls being attracted to the first type make it worthless for them to put attention on this kind of guy..
and their worthiness usually is seen quietly from besides, meaning if you do not put some effort in discovering their caring-ness then their action is completely in waste!
and before girls put efforts in observing them, their attention is drawn away by the first type..
so what is the chance left for these guys?
i would say this type of guy is very pitiful..
usually this kind of guy is good guy which will think of the future, which will take care of most of the things, which the girl should look into~
yet, this kind of 'good husband' is always maltreated.

so the situation became like this:
the speaking guy is bad(doesnt mean those evil's bad!), but get alot of girl's attention.
the action guy which is normally good(no sweeping statement!), will get carried away~

so ended up:
the bad guy always take things for granted and break promise, but the girls always choose to forgive, which i can proudly say they are in a 'cycle of forgiveness'~
and the good guy always ended up nowhere to be found!



above is just my point of view~
feel free to give opinion~ =)

喜欢，一个人。。。

最近有一个兄弟回归了~
说来惭愧，他跟我是认识最久的兄弟~
虽然现在的兄弟团是中学时期的一群朋友~
但是他是和我来自同小学的。。甚至同窗同班！！！

虽然中学没有同班~
上了学院，绕了一圈还是回到同一班~
直到他在班内找到大他两年的女生玩姐弟恋，一切都变了~
他不再参我们玩闹嬉哈~
我们也理解~
毕竟有一句俗语：重色轻友~ xD

但是最近他竟然很反常的回来找我们！
而且明显的是经历过挫折~
失恋了！
庆幸的，我们没有排挤他~
反而鼓励他，他也知道他错过了跟我们一起的时光~
但是一切还不算太迟~

之前他跟她在一起的时候~
我们都不看好~
主要因为他们是‘姐弟恋’~
到后来我们接受了，因为我们见识到了~
只是女方一直都会做出扯后腿的动作~
男方的脾气也有暴躁附加大男人主义~
最后我们决定放弃干涉~
中间故事太过错中复杂，就跳过吧~

现在，男的还没有放下那女的~
其实，故事发生在男方太过于喜欢女方~
这让我意识到太过喜欢的恐怖~
他喜欢到，特地买刀想自杀！！！
还想过要跳楼~

其实，这已经不是第一次我听到朋友想跳楼自杀了~
嗨哟~
请珍惜生命吧~
幸好我们还可以坐在一起喝茶聊天~
最后他还是选择放开了~
但是，放不放得了还得看他自己的毅力！

这让我浮现了某些想法~
喜欢一个人：
太少，会被嫌不够体贴不够感觉；
太多，会被嫌太过控制太过没空间感。
那我们应该怎么做？
找到平衡点很重要，难度在于那平衡点会一直移动！

这其实取决于那个人的看法是怎样~
对我来说，我一直都不觉得恋爱是一件痛苦的事~
只要两个人做下来沟通，只要问心无愧，我觉得一切事情都是可以解决的~
难免情侣间会有吵架~但为什么不往好的方面去看？
这或许是最佳机会向他/她坦白一切平时不能坦白的东西？
不管怎样~
做任何事，平衡点就是一切~
不能做太过，也不能做太少~
刚刚好就可以了~ =)

ps. 生命是很脆弱，人家要命没有~你有完整的生命就请珍惜！

放一张很搞笑的一张图~ xD

Being good to people is a crime?

seeing friend said don be too good to friends because they will take you for granted..
but if everyone in this world is taking out their kindness towards people/friends, who on earth is left with treating people nicely?

it is undoubtedly that treating friend in good manners that someday they will take-us-for-granted..
they will just ignore you when they feel so..
they would not hesitate to deny you for no reason!
all because they knew in their mind that no matter what they do we will treat them 'nicely' again~
they knew we will forgive them.
they knew we are kind..

yea, that is the trend of the world now..
trend of treating friends..
trend of socializing!!

how do i view this matter?

someone for sure have to be the good guy and another to be bad guy..
without good guy, wont have bad guy, vice versa~
this thing we cannot change..
what we can do then?
let other keep 'bully' us?

well, this is other people's action that we cannot control..
so it left us with ONLY one option, to adjust our mentality~

there is friends who asked me don be too stupid to become a good guy..
what is the benefit?
i only get carried away..
and no one seems to care my existence..
because to them i am equalize to nothing!
got me no me makes no different in their life!

everyone have their own perception..
it's true on what my friend said..

but think twice~
why want to treat people not-good?

now you treat people nice..
although they would not thank you directly..
but this piece of kindness will remembered by others..
and once we are in deep shit, there is an opportunity there to seek help from these friends..

beside, what's wrong with being good?
my friend do doubt me before on why i treat friend so nice?
until the verge of sacrificing my welfare!

yes, i might do things out of normal friend boundaries, but i do that without sacrificing my welfare!
whereas i help them because i have extra resources!

just for a normal example, i am good in accounting..
and when juniors approach me for guidance, i will teach when i got time!
but to others, it might be an act of simply being 'too good'!

anyway, it is better to treat people in good form rather in bad form gua?
so my principle is always simple..
i will treat my friends with kindness..
whether they want to remember my 'kindness' or not is their rights..
at least i told myself, i treat my friend with sincere heart..
there is no single idea that pop out in my mind on how to harm them..
maybe got, but that is just for joking purpose! =D
i did my best in doing goods for myself and others..
i am not guilty! hees~ ^^

nowadays i feel like people keep questioning me on certain issue..
and i have address them now..
the purpose of writing these post is not to get attention or what..
indeed not much people view my post..
so i just want to explain as much as i can and let others be understood on my action~
that's all.. =)

why i have this thought of writing this post?
this afternoon kena zha dao by some person who reply me damn short.
no emoticon. and sms me like no mood.
feel like having a long chat with her but end up i can feel she do not want to chat much.
i asked her twice is she ok.. she said 'yea'~
well, i coldly replied her back and she never replied back already..
this makes my wonder is it i treat her good that's why she take-me-for-granted? @@

ps. 25th November 2012

Double A, Audit or Account?

It's been a wide topic discussion among my friends as well as with juniors..
Particularly when they opted for internship, they do not know which category to choose..

I heard that their current audit lecturer Ms Ng Lay Choo successfully killed student's interest in audit with AXP cw~
Not surprise to hear that..
Every year this issue kept happening and i noticed safeguards is done compare to my years back in year 2010~
But still students fail to absorb the elements of audit..
Cant blame it, this is the nature of audit!

Yesterday have some yum cha session with my secondary school gang~
songher, kahwai and dion..
after whole lot of discussion in whatsapp AT LAST we met successfully..
not to blame the others for not joining but i think they just simply lack commitment..
of course this comment will stay here and not trying to back stabbing others la..
just merely voice out my idea~ =)

spent 2 hours at in house cheras..
far more better than in house GK~
food also nicer!!!
it's a worthwhile chit chat session that we must treasure..
alot agenda was put up..
one of it was the title of this post~

I just started my work this past thursday..
and i work as accounts executive, under probation for 3 months..
the reason why i choose account as of now is that i do not own any degree, master or ACCA!
without this 3 things, it is hard for a big company to employ us..
Although we are fresh grads from advanced diploma but they do not give a damn..
However my current company is in short of accountants..
Thus i am employed..

First two days of work is rather easy as i prepare payment voucher and cheques..
I pick this company up because the salary is above market rate without ACCA..
and I will learn how to prepare a full set accounts..
This is important as i can understand the operation side of a company..

Once i finished my ACCA,probably earliest June or latest December, I would have experience of 9 months in preparing an accounts.
Then I will move on to audit as i planned since i entered diploma.
I would like to become auditors.

Despite auditors is a shit job i would say but it is a great jumping board..
The pay is low, the worklife is imbalance, the working hour is damn long..
officially we work until 5.30pm, but can we leave by that time? NO! guiltiness kill you when your senior is still working hard and here you want to leave?
the pay is RM3000 round off.. sounds alot, but we sacrifice youth!
OT 40 hours, wrote on timesheet 20 hours, get claimed ONLY 10 hours!
besides, hitting ourselves with deadlines can be very stressing~
also! you love social life with people around you!
AUDITORS = All U Do Is Think Of Resigning..
this aint a good industry in Malaysia..

But of course if we want to look from the bright side it still have some benefits la.
It is a great jumping board..
Being an auditors have it's power, you can get any files you like and view it, even if it's a confidential board minuted..
We can learn alot from there..
Besides, we can understand the operation of a company in small part but not all, cause we are not auditing the whole company alone..


My friend said now you become auditors everyone will respect you.
10 years later they will laugh at you for STILL BEING an auditors..


You see? there's drawback as well as benefits.
But overall, ask ourselves, what we want to achieve?

For me, I planned earlier that I wanted to go into audit firm as soon as i graduated..
But unable to complete my ACCA as soon as I can fail to attract their interest..
Thus I re-planned and opted to go for accounts first before enter back PwC~
This is what i have in mind~

But after hearing my friends point of view, i might change it..
he said why are we letting us to step into a miserable life?
we only live once and why do we need to suffer ourselves?
not that we desperate need to enter into the big 4 for money, how much we can earn there?
it is true that we can earn more, we gives our time in..
next time my friend call and ask for yum cha also i would not have time for that if i am still auditing til late night.
overall, it is not worth overall to work as an auditors..

everyone rushing to work at audit firm and become auditors have enable the big 4 to have power to affect our salary..
extremely saying, we kiss those big 4 asses till they do not bother much about our welfare..

Well well, the ultimate question: audit or account?
time to have a deep thought about it~

so ngam last few days i just told pigowl on this matter..
internship is for them to expose, think wise~ =)

ps. work first, plan might change~

Stay on

Some people told me that we must leaves the current focus to move on to another. But let me asked back a question, did it really matter?

Since long time ago, no one tend to be the best in anything. Yes i admit that. But that does not mean no one can be the best~ It just simply means no one yet to achieve that milestone or someone achieved that but is not widely known.

Perhaps there is just no case to be quoted at the moment. But my aim is to create the first case among my friend to be quote by everyone when necessary, to be excel in it. It's not like I wanted to fame myself, but my simple objective is to show other people that I can do what they thought it is quite impossible to achieve.

When no one did the best yet, no one will acknowledge what i wan to pursue. Once i did it, then everyone will start to rejudge. This is the nature of it. I understand and thus did not blame it.
For example, i said that when i leave college i will be visiting back very often. I will still put heart in managing relationships with juniors and all. But apparently most of them asked me to move on. Yep, i do not deny that. This is the stages of life and i shall move on to next stage already. Perhaps now is time for me to focus on career. But what's wrong with keeping to the current one? Friendship and relationship? I could not focus on that?

There is a senior(same age as me) who start working as a reporter in newspaper agency. He still focus on the things i would like to focus on now. He's still a successful workman. Successful as in he can cope with both things.

So i would like to raise an issue~ couldn't one hold on to two things at the same time?

One college staff told me right now i might have this feeling of reminiscence but it will slowly degrade when i start working~ how i wish i could change her but changing people is kinda difficult  so i just told her that i will keep coming back and i will treasure the moment i have here in college for the past 6 years. Let her judge again when she see me. I believe she wil tell me this in the future: 'no one come back to college as often as you'. I am going to reply lik this: 'u do not know how much and how is the way i treasure the thing i view as important'. =)

Another friend of mine said i should move my focus now, partially because she knew  i could not have any favorable outcomes. I thank and appreciate her for her advise. But as i said, i stay strong to my belief. And i will prove to everyone that i do not take things lightly. If i let go now i might not prove myself worthiness  Also i do not hope for any other things. I just hope to stay as of now and let things run naturally. Do not put much hope on it and just stay to my best. (Perhaps this is the right person for me so far, but came at wrong timing)

This is not a frustration~ this is just a mere thought from myself that i wish people will understand how i address this issue. Besides, there is alot of 'prove' above, but do not get me wrong. I just do things with full force that's all! =)

Right now i cant prove anything as of yet. But i believe time will allow me to show others that i meant what i meant. I will continue to stick to what i perceive. Its not that i refuse to listen, refuse to change, refuse to move on. Its just that i wanna show you all that i can be the best that one could not believe as of now, which they might be astonish in the future.

Lets wait for future to come and i hope things will be better. Favourable. Smoother. =)

ps. hold on with no expectation. hees.

drafted on the way to first day of working @ 10am
edited @ 10pm
posted @ 11pm

another post halfly done.. don plan to post. view phone.