自信 勇敢 坚强

对于我一直想得到的东西~

我到现在还是没能得到。。。

撇开一切，我的生活到底还剩下什么？

看来这是我应当正视的问题。。

有时候真的很佩服自己的想法~

自己能够像的那么的开明~

到底为什么？

一个对我不是很有利的情况~

我竟然还能分析出我的胜算，以及如何取得胜利~

那是好事还是坏事？

一个明知道是碰壁的的情况~

我能够继续坚持，希望结果能够逆转~

那是好事还是坏事？

有人说我装大方，难道我就真的大方不起来？

有人说我固执，难道就不能看作是我不轻言放弃？

那些是每个人的想法，一个与自己不同的思考空间。。

我们奈何不了。

惟有对得起自己，那才没有白白浪费~

我一直都认为，大家做不了的事情就不应该说没有人会做到。。

或许我就是那个能够撑起大场面的人？

或许最后胜利是属于我的？

现在的路一点也不容易走~

无可否认~

但是只要坚信自己是行的，天下有哪一条路是封闭的？

就算到了路障，谁说路障后面是没有路的？

最多也是条崎岖路~

你走得过，没有理由不给你走~

只是，不容易走罢了~

不管在任何情况下，只要跟自己说自己是行的，对自己加一点点自信，有谁能说你不够资格活出自己的世界，得到自己想要的东西？

自信~ 勇敢~ 坚强~ ！！！

ps. 无条件。。。

男生 女生

一个男生 一个女生

女生喜欢男生

男生说喜欢女生

彼此相爱

但没有在一起

情况一

一天

男生被撞见跟另一个女生

后果会怎样列？

情况二

男生跟女生讲我爱你，女生心动。

殊不知原来男生跟每个人都这样讲。

后果会怎样列？

情况三

男生脚踏两船，女生不知道。

后果会怎样列？

whoever seethis post reply la~ interesting stories~ =)

520

Many people thought this is a special day..
i cant feel it before i opened up my facebook during the evening..
the whole news feed is full of it!
and i just realise..
m i too late for it?

duno why this few days im thinking alot..
perhaps i let myself too free to think too much..
and today is the worst!

it's not like i want to think about those things but the thoughts just flow in like water..
and what else i can do?
NOTHING!

but anyway i try to make myself ok after those thoughts..
i don feel like holding it and affect my mood after this..
thus i feel like releasing..
but who can i find at this timing?

suan ba~
i can only let the happy mind overtake those thoughts..
right now im thinking about the happy moments i spent back few days with friends..
it is them who lead me to a brighter side~
yea, and i enjoyed the 2 nights yc session without yc..
hmm~

someone did not take care of herself..
that's a sad case...
i hope she is alright, she looks lik zombie..

and am happy to know someone become her 'new driver'!
happy for both of them for having this kind of progression~
i hope things is smooth for both of them~!

well, today is may 20th..
as mainstream as it goes, 我爱你！

Different thought~

This world is definitely full of different kind of people..

Yep! I meant it!

Sometimes i am very tired of dealing with this kind of people..
Yet, socialising is part of me!
So eventually i have to face every kind of person that appeared in front of me..
But i just do not understand how certain people will have their own way of 'special' thinking~

I mean was it that i am weird for having my own way of thinking or they have their own way of thinking weirder?
But whatever it is i think that both parties can stay with their own thinking without having to invade others..
cause everyone is different entity and thus will have different style of thought..

So what is the occasion if someone bring this matters over to another matters?
Meaning if topic no 1 they could not reach a concensus, then this fat lan zha method will brought forward to another topic?
Personal view i think this shall not be happening..
But the fact is, it is!

I find it ridiculous for people to judge another person with their thinking..
Those who is not same with them, banned!
and only thinks that what they think is right..
and refuse to listen to others too..
this kind of friend how to safe leh? aiks~

I mean i'm not blaming others for having different thought with me..
but shouldn't we just let it go?
and treat one another like before?
and respect each other's thought?

I just hope things can run smoothly that's all~
My only hope in this matter~

ps. still friends~ =)

This is rational post..
Irrational post shall be retained.. @@

Humorous vs Caring

The debate of the week goes to:

which kind of guy is more attractive?

is it those who is good in speaking aka humorous?
OR
is it those who is good in action aka caring?

i just randomly thought of this question out of nowhere..
perhaps that is the main reason why i am still single..
no offence to myself and to others..
i just feel so..

i hope to have this kind of discussion with my friends because i would like to know how they perceive this question.

traditionally girls like to hear those sweet sweet comments which means the first type of guy will have the advantage.
i do not know whether the girls are aware that first type of guys always end up giving short term promise..
(no sweeping statement!)
they like to use their sweet mouth to capture the girl's heart and then make full use of the power of control they gained from the girls..
although sometimes we would call it a trap but still girls normally fall for this kind of trap.
it is because of their sweet mouth that girls is usually attracted towards this kind of guy..
it's girl nature, we cant do anything~

as for the other type of guy?
chamness!
girls being attracted to the first type make it worthless for them to put attention on this kind of guy..
and their worthiness usually is seen quietly from besides, meaning if you do not put some effort in discovering their caring-ness then their action is completely in waste!
and before girls put efforts in observing them, their attention is drawn away by the first type..
so what is the chance left for these guys?
i would say this type of guy is very pitiful..
usually this kind of guy is good guy which will think of the future, which will take care of most of the things, which the girl should look into~
yet, this kind of 'good husband' is always maltreated.

so the situation became like this:
the speaking guy is bad(doesnt mean those evil's bad!), but get alot of girl's attention.
the action guy which is normally good(no sweeping statement!), will get carried away~

so ended up:
the bad guy always take things for granted and break promise, but the girls always choose to forgive, which i can proudly say they are in a 'cycle of forgiveness'~
and the good guy always ended up nowhere to be found!



above is just my point of view~
feel free to give opinion~ =)

喜欢，一个人。。。

最近有一个兄弟回归了~
说来惭愧，他跟我是认识最久的兄弟~
虽然现在的兄弟团是中学时期的一群朋友~
但是他是和我来自同小学的。。甚至同窗同班！！！

虽然中学没有同班~
上了学院，绕了一圈还是回到同一班~
直到他在班内找到大他两年的女生玩姐弟恋，一切都变了~
他不再参我们玩闹嬉哈~
我们也理解~
毕竟有一句俗语：重色轻友~ xD

但是最近他竟然很反常的回来找我们！
而且明显的是经历过挫折~
失恋了！
庆幸的，我们没有排挤他~
反而鼓励他，他也知道他错过了跟我们一起的时光~
但是一切还不算太迟~

之前他跟她在一起的时候~
我们都不看好~
主要因为他们是‘姐弟恋’~
到后来我们接受了，因为我们见识到了~
只是女方一直都会做出扯后腿的动作~
男方的脾气也有暴躁附加大男人主义~
最后我们决定放弃干涉~
中间故事太过错中复杂，就跳过吧~

现在，男的还没有放下那女的~
其实，故事发生在男方太过于喜欢女方~
这让我意识到太过喜欢的恐怖~
他喜欢到，特地买刀想自杀！！！
还想过要跳楼~

其实，这已经不是第一次我听到朋友想跳楼自杀了~
嗨哟~
请珍惜生命吧~
幸好我们还可以坐在一起喝茶聊天~
最后他还是选择放开了~
但是，放不放得了还得看他自己的毅力！

这让我浮现了某些想法~
喜欢一个人：
太少，会被嫌不够体贴不够感觉；
太多，会被嫌太过控制太过没空间感。
那我们应该怎么做？
找到平衡点很重要，难度在于那平衡点会一直移动！

这其实取决于那个人的看法是怎样~
对我来说，我一直都不觉得恋爱是一件痛苦的事~
只要两个人做下来沟通，只要问心无愧，我觉得一切事情都是可以解决的~
难免情侣间会有吵架~但为什么不往好的方面去看？
这或许是最佳机会向他/她坦白一切平时不能坦白的东西？
不管怎样~
做任何事，平衡点就是一切~
不能做太过，也不能做太少~
刚刚好就可以了~ =)

ps. 生命是很脆弱，人家要命没有~你有完整的生命就请珍惜！

放一张很搞笑的一张图~ xD

Being good to people is a crime?

seeing friend said don be too good to friends because they will take you for granted..
but if everyone in this world is taking out their kindness towards people/friends, who on earth is left with treating people nicely?

it is undoubtedly that treating friend in good manners that someday they will take-us-for-granted..
they will just ignore you when they feel so..
they would not hesitate to deny you for no reason!
all because they knew in their mind that no matter what they do we will treat them 'nicely' again~
they knew we will forgive them.
they knew we are kind..

yea, that is the trend of the world now..
trend of treating friends..
trend of socializing!!

how do i view this matter?

someone for sure have to be the good guy and another to be bad guy..
without good guy, wont have bad guy, vice versa~
this thing we cannot change..
what we can do then?
let other keep 'bully' us?

well, this is other people's action that we cannot control..
so it left us with ONLY one option, to adjust our mentality~

there is friends who asked me don be too stupid to become a good guy..
what is the benefit?
i only get carried away..
and no one seems to care my existence..
because to them i am equalize to nothing!
got me no me makes no different in their life!

everyone have their own perception..
it's true on what my friend said..

but think twice~
why want to treat people not-good?

now you treat people nice..
although they would not thank you directly..
but this piece of kindness will remembered by others..
and once we are in deep shit, there is an opportunity there to seek help from these friends..

beside, what's wrong with being good?
my friend do doubt me before on why i treat friend so nice?
until the verge of sacrificing my welfare!

yes, i might do things out of normal friend boundaries, but i do that without sacrificing my welfare!
whereas i help them because i have extra resources!

just for a normal example, i am good in accounting..
and when juniors approach me for guidance, i will teach when i got time!
but to others, it might be an act of simply being 'too good'!

anyway, it is better to treat people in good form rather in bad form gua?
so my principle is always simple..
i will treat my friends with kindness..
whether they want to remember my 'kindness' or not is their rights..
at least i told myself, i treat my friend with sincere heart..
there is no single idea that pop out in my mind on how to harm them..
maybe got, but that is just for joking purpose! =D
i did my best in doing goods for myself and others..
i am not guilty! hees~ ^^

nowadays i feel like people keep questioning me on certain issue..
and i have address them now..
the purpose of writing these post is not to get attention or what..
indeed not much people view my post..
so i just want to explain as much as i can and let others be understood on my action~
that's all.. =)

why i have this thought of writing this post?
this afternoon kena zha dao by some person who reply me damn short.
no emoticon. and sms me like no mood.
feel like having a long chat with her but end up i can feel she do not want to chat much.
i asked her twice is she ok.. she said 'yea'~
well, i coldly replied her back and she never replied back already..
this makes my wonder is it i treat her good that's why she take-me-for-granted? @@

ps. 25th November 2012